Lifestyle
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Date Nights
As I mentioned in my Night off blog post, my husband and I were together for 10 years before our son was born. We were used to spending a lot of time together and knew what was going on in each other’s lives. After our baby was born, the only conversations we started having were related to logistics – who is going to pick up groceries? who is going to do the banking? who is going to book the next doctor’s appointment? You get the jist…. We were also growing apart and becoming distant. According to The Gottman Institute, it is important to have updated “love maps”, which simply means…
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Night off
My husband and I had been living together for 10 years before our son was born. We were so used to having time to ourselves and time together before our son. Caring for an infant at all hours of the day and the night was a huge paradigm shift for us and we struggled to keep our cool. Our relationship changed and we weren’t too happy with each other (lack of sleep didn’t help either!). After one year of maternity leave, I went back to work full time and things got worse as the pressures of performing well at work collided with the pressures of house-work and child-care (both my…
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Netflix versus Reading
Today my husband told my son (6 years old) an interesting story about a man who visited my husband’s elementary school when he was a kid and told the kids about his life. The man (let’s call him Bob) spent some years of his life in prison. In prison, Bob was given the job to peel potatoes in the kitchen and was instructed to put the potatoes in the potato peeling machine for 2 minutes and then peel the little bit left over skin by hand. There was a lazy guy who told Bob that he puts the potato in the peeler for 5 minutes so he doesn’t have to…